If so, remember Psalm 118:6: “The LORD is for me; I will not fear; What can man do to me?”
When you fear something—or someone—you allow it/them to control you. As Ed Welch wrote, “Their opinions, possible opinions, attitudes, or withholding of love become YOUR master.”
Unfortunately, the fear of man can be a hindrance to evangelism, as well as an area of lingering sin in people’s lives. But fortunately, the Bible gives us help to fight this sin.
DEFINING THE FEAR OF MAN:
The fear of man is when you think you need something to live, be happy, fulfilled, etc. but you wonder if you might *not* get it.
If you need comfort—you’ll fear physical pain.
If you need approval from others—you’ll fear being criticized.
If you need love—you’ll fear rejection
If you need admiration for attractiveness—you’ll fear getting fat.
DECIPHERING THE FEAR OF MAN:
Are you over-committed? Is it hard for you to say no even when wisdom indicates you should? (people pleaser).
Is self-esteem a critical concern for you? (fear of man extroidinairre in the US). Does your life revolve around what others think of you?
You fear man if you are UNWILLING to confess sin to others for accountability (wife, pastor, trusted friend) b/c you don’t want to feel SHAMED in their eyes.
Are you always second-guessing decisions based on what others think?
Do you get easily embarrassed?
Do you ever lie—even white lies? Lying and other forms of living in the dark are usually ways to make ourselves look better before others.
Aren’t most diets—even when they are ostensibly under the magazine heading of “health” – dedicated to impressing others? The desire for “praise of men” is one of the ways we exalt people above God.
Now… If you DON’T deal with these sins biblically, they will SOON dominate you; it will be your people-idol. Your idol of people-pleasing and people-worshipping will soon own and dominate you.
DESTROYING THE FEAR OF MAN:
Here Are five practical tips so that you can destroy the fear of man & replace it with the fear of the Lord.
1. Acknowledge that you do FEAR MEN and CONFESS it as SIN.
Instead of asking: “how can I feel better about myself & not be controlled about what people think” (man-centered thinking!), instead ask: ”why am I so concerned about myself self-esteem? And how can I think more on Christ and on the Gospel?”
Proverbs 29:25: “The fear of man brings a snare, But he who trusts in the LORD will be exalted.”
Psalm 34:11: “Come, you children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the LORD.”
You learn the Fear of the Lord by being in God’s Word, learning about who God is (gaining a biblical view of the character of God rather than a man-made, cleverly-concocted god so many in our world fabricate), praying to God frequently and spending time with others who fear the Lord not man.
Deuteronomy 31:11-13 : “When all Israel comes to appear before the LORD your God at the place which He will choose, you shall read this law in front of all Israel in their hearing. Assemble the people, the men and the women and children and the alien who is in your town, so that they may hear and learn and fear the LORD your God, and be careful to observe all the words of this law. Their children, who have not known, will hear and learn to fear the LORD your God, as long as you live on the land which you are about to cross the Jordan to possess.”
God must be bigger to you than people are.
3. Confess where your desires have been TOO big.
Remember that men are so selfish that their expectations will be greater than you will be able to satisfy. They will not consider those things that might prevent you from giving them what they desire such as your ministry to others, your job, or your necessary diversionary activities. They want you all to themselves as though you had no one else to care for but them (Richard Baxter).
Baxter then wrote: If you seek first to please God and are satisfied with that you have but one to please instead of multitudes. And a multitude of masters are harder to please than one.
4. Delight in the gospel & rejoice that God has covered your sinful fears & shame.
Christ’s Unconditional and Unwavering love for His elect charted his life—he didn’t live to please men. He went to the cross because of His love for His own; not because of his fear of man that just had a bad outcome.
So, you ask, “What’s the BEST way to RID these sins & NOT fear men?”
Draw closer to Jesus Christ in genuine repentance like the woman who poured perfume on the feet of Christ even if others mock.
Luke 7:36-39: “Now one of the Pharisees was requesting Him to dine with him, and He entered the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. And there was a woman in the city who was a sinner; and when she learned that He was reclining at the table in the Pharisee’s house, she brought an alabaster vial of perfume, 38 and standing behind Him at His feet, weeping, she began to wet His feet with her tears, and kept wiping them with the hair of her head, and kissing His feet and anointing them with the perfume. 39 Now when the Pharisee who had invited Him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet He would know who and what sort of person this woman is who is touching Him, that she is a sinner.”
5. Exchange your Need for others with a passion to love others more.
The fear of man is the sin that we feel that we NEED them (for ourselves) more than our responsibility to love them.
The task God sets for us is to need them less and to love them more.
In other words: “out of obedience to Christ, and as a respond to his love toward you, pursue others in love (Welch, When People are Big and God is Small, 183).
Ed Welch continues:
We have a wrong view of what we truly need and what we deserve. While all the things that I just mentioned are good things, is it ultimately true that I “need” those things? I may want those things, there may be great advantage to having those things, I may function best with those things, but as a Christian I must ultimately say that no, I don’t need these things. The only thing I truly need in this life, or the next, is for my sins to be atoned for so that I may be reconciled to God. Furthermore, the only thing I truly deserve is to spend an eternity in hell for the sins I have committed.
In conclusion, bear in mind the words of the Apostle Paul: “Therefore we also have as our ambition, whether at home or absent, to be pleasing to Him” (2 Corinthians 5:9).