October 9, 2012

Let the Pigeons out of the Hole

by Wyatt Graham

Nearly all Christians have some experience discipling immature believers. Perhaps you started serving with someone who was unkind, short-tempered and just plain lacking in Christian disciplines. It may be that this person has served in the church with you for over a year now, but you have not changed your opinion of him or her. You never really let this person grow, because in your mind, he is always going to be an immature believer.

Yet Paul describes the Christian life as one of progression when he says that we are all “being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another” (2 Cor 3:18). As believers, we experience Spirit wrought growth, and thank God for his work in our lives. But sometimes we forget that the Spirit works in other people too. Instead, we pigeonhole people in ministry and refuse to let them climb out our mental perception of them.

PAUL AND MARK

The story that best illustrates this truth is the sharp disagreement between Paul and Barnabas over Mark. In Acts 15, Barnabas wanted to take Mark with him and Paul on their second missionary journey. But Paul refused to take Mark, because “had withdrawn from Pamphylia and had not gone with them to the work” (Acts 15:38). Granted, we cannot be certain what the disagreement between Paul and Mark was really about, but we can say that Paul had a problem with Mark and thought that he was not qualified for missionary work.

But as time passed, Mark proved himself to be valuable to the ministry. Paul trusted in the Spirit’s work in Mark’s life and didn’t simply write Mark off as useless. Paul told Timothy this near the end of this life, “Luke alone is with me. Get Mark and bring him with you, for he is very useful to me for ministry” (2 Tim 4:11). Paul allowed Mark to grow out of the category of “useless” to become “useful.” Paul didn’t judge Mark as an immature believer forever, but he trusted in the Spirit to change him to become useful for ministry.

LET PEOPLE BE MARKS

I can remember my college days, and in my first year there I was an over-zealous Calvinist. I went through the state that just about every eighteen year old goes through who discovers the doctrines of grace. The problem was that when I grew out of my over-zealous calvinizing, the leadership in my college ministry would not let me grow past the image they had transposed upon me. I remember being told that I could not be a Spiritual Life Director, because the leadership thought that I was too Calvinistic. I was stuck-I was pigeonholed. That’s not who I was anymore, but that’s what they thought I was.

I wonder how often we do this as pastors or disciplers. We refuse to let others grow more and more into the image of Christ (Rom 8:29), because we view them with an image of immaturity. Perhaps they were immature. But they aren’t anymore. We have just pigeonholed them.

A big reason we pigeonhole people into categories and never let them leave is because we fail to trust in the Spirit’s transforming power in other people’s lives. Romans bears out the truth that everything we do in our Christian life by the Spirit (Rom 8:1–16). This is why Paul can tell believers to walk by the Spirit (Gal 5:16) and to live by the Spirit, resulting in “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control (Gal 5:22).” The Spirit will change a believer, because he gives us new life (John 3:8).

When put like this, it is easy to see why what I have named “pigeonholing” is both wrong and sinful, as it is a displacement of trust and it takes judging a person’s spiritual state into our own hands.

And in the end, the fundamental fact that we must see is that it is not so much the person we are trusting as it is the Spirit of God at work in that person that we must trust. It is only God who is intimately acquainted with the spiritual state of a person, and it is only God who will be able to truly change a person from the heart.

So, stop pigeonholing, and instead trust the Spirit to change people.

Wyatt Graham

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Wyatt is an intern for the pastors at Grace Community Church in Los Angeles. He oversees the church's evangelism on college campuses.
  • MMJ

    There is nothing quite like an overly zealous Calvinist. And yet, we all who have been filled with awe and excitement at having the truth of those doctrines of grace revealed to us, have had to wrestle through that “finding Calvinism in everything” kind of thing.
    Like they say; a person who comes to embrace the doctrines of grace should be locked away for 6 months. Maybe six isn’t enough? :) thanks for this article.

    • http://wagraham.wordpress.com Wyatt

      Thanks for the comment! Maybe 6 months isn’t long enough. A year may be better. :)

  • e.dodson

    Well Said Wyatt!

    • http://wagraham.wordpress.com Wyatt

      Thanks Eric!

  • http://mriccardi.blogspot.com Mike Riccardi

    This is just such a helpful observation, Wyatt.Thanks so much for taking the time to write it.

    • http://wagraham.wordpress.com Wyatt

      My pleasure. Thanks for reading it!

  • EW

    Thanks Wyatt! Excellent article! Question… How do the Pigeons get out of the hole they have been placed in? The above mentions the Pastoral view. How about the Pigeon’s view?

    • http://mriccardi.blogspot.com Mike Riccardi

      Hey EW,

      Unfortunately, the nature of pigeonholing generally prevents pigeons from getting themselves out. Really what you’re asking is, “How do I get someone to change their mind about me?” We can’t change people’s minds for them, so in that sense, we’re at their mercy.

      The only thing we can do is to be relentlessly faithful. To continue to be chaste in our behavior, to be faithful to the Word of God, to love our neighbor as ourselves, to serve our brothers and sisters in humility, and even love our enemies as the Father has loved His enemies. We want our lives to be expositions of the Word of God, whether people read those expositions fairly or not.

      If we’re faithful before the Lord, and it’s His will that we get out of the pigeonhole, He’ll get us out. And if it’s not, and He wants us to stay in for a while, well that’s a trial amid which we have an opportunity to make Him look great, by being satisfied with His approval more than anything. All we can do is be faithful, and pray.

      I hope that helps, brother.

      • EW

        Much appreciated Mike… Thank you for sharing. Sigh… I will wait upon the Lord and endure this trial making him look great (I hope)… Good stuff to think and pray upon. Again, much appreciated.

    • http://mriccardi.blogspot.com Mike Riccardi

      Hey EW,

      Unfortunately, the nature of pigeonholing generally prevents pigeons from getting themselves out. Really what you’re asking is, “How do I get someone to change their mind about me?” We can’t change people’s minds for them, so in that sense, we’re at their mercy.

      The only thing we can do is to be relentlessly faithful. To continue to be chaste in our behavior, to be faithful to the Word of God, to love our neighbor as ourselves, to serve our brothers and sisters in humility, and even love our enemies as the Father has loved His enemies. We want our lives to be expositions of the Word of God, whether people read those expositions fairly or not.

      If we’re faithful before the Lord, and it’s His will that we get out of the pigeonhole, He’ll get us out. And if it’s not, and He wants us to stay in for a while, well that’s a trial amid which we have an opportunity to make Him look great, by being satisfied with His approval more than anything. All we can do is be faithful, and pray.

      I hope that helps, brother.