Archives For Shepherding

StarbucksI was asked that question last week, as a result of some controversial statements made last month by the coffee company’s CEO in which he publicly supported gay marriage.

If I were a coffee snob, I probably would have answered that we should boycott Starbucks because they burn their beans. But I’m not a coffee snob. And I knew that wasn’t really the heart behind the question.

My actual response went something like this:

If your conscience is pricked by drinking Starbucks coffee, then you should not drink Starbucks coffee. That is a decision that you ought to make in your own heart before the Lord. But if other believers choose not to join you in your boycott (because they don’t share that same personal conviction), you should not judge them for responding differently than you do.

While it is not an exact parallel, the situation regarding food offered to idols (addressed by Paul in 1 Corinthians 8-9) provides us with principles that apply to these types of situations.

In our day, the issue involves purchasing coffee from a twenty-first century company that publicly supports gay marriage. In Paul’s day, the controversy centered around buying food from first-century vendors who had openly offered it to idols in the local pagan temple. Though the specifics are clearly different, both situations raise a similar moral question: Are believers at liberty to purchase food (or coffee) from an openly anti-Christian source?

Paul’s response to the first-century dilemma is instructive for us today. It provides principles for thinking through issues (like the Starbucks controversy) that involve both conscience and Christian liberty. Continue Reading…

thumbs upIf you are a Christian and you are on Facebook, eventually you will ask yourself this question: “how am I supposed to respond to my so-called friends who promote sin on their wall?”

The examples are legion. Maybe one of your old friends from high school is clearly not following the Lord, and takes every opportunity to publicize exactly how drunk he got last night. Perhaps you are friends with someone from your church who “celebrates marriage equality” on his page. The most common example for me is people that I used to coach in soccer, whose lives (if Facebook is any indication) revolve around partying.

Here are some principles I apply in dealing with this:    Continue Reading…

Tax DayJanuary 25, 1999 was the day I became a hater. As I slowly tore open the envelope with my very first real paycheck I was looking forward to the juiciest check on which I had ever seen my own name inscribed. But as my eyes darted from my name to the amount, I felt as though I was on Candid Camera and there was an audience awaiting my distraught response as I fell for the cruel joke. But it was no joke. My salary had conspicuously shrunk since it was negotiated the month before.

Reality Check

I realized with a coming-of-age epiphany that the amount being bandied about in the compensation discussion was my deceptively robust “gross package” as opposed to this somewhat anemic “net salary.” What the rest of the world takes for granted—the certainty of death and that other nasty thing— was a face slapping reality check for those of us whose job experience was limited to the waitron’s cash tips and Mom’s sympathy bills tucked into a coat pocket.

It was the sheer unexpectedness of it all that struck me. Like when you first notice a mosquito that has been surreptitiously sucking on your arm. It was that day that I began to realize the biblical aversion to tax collectors. If that slice of my earnings had been carried away by a living person, my indignation would have had a target.

Over time, the shock fades to reluctant acceptance, which moulds into a sullen resignation to the way things are in this sin-cursed stage for the trauma of death and taxes we call Earth. But for believers in Christ, tax time is an opportunity to worship. No, seriously.

Continue Reading…

When I was in college and a brand new believer, I was asked a question that caught me off guard: Where in the Bible does it say that Christians should wait until marriage to have sex?

It stumped me because a) I didn’t know my Bible at all, and b) even as an unbeliever I had taken for granted that Christians did not sleep together before marriage. I had never thought anyone would challenge that assumption. I was wrong.

I was asked the question again the other day, and decided to put an answer on the blog for others to use. Here’s my condensed offering…wait

In his letter to the Thessalonian Christians Paul reveals God’s will on the issue of sex before marriage to “you in the Lord” I.e. Christians. It is important to realize that this is not limited to a particular culture of time period, because Paul says this is what he received from God who inspired the writing of Scripture (as in 2 Tim 3:16-17 explains), on “how you aought to walk and to please God (1 Thess 4:1)”

If you don’t live this way you are living like the people “who do not know God” (vs 5) i.e. unbelievers. So, if a person lives this way, he should not call himself a Christian.

Here’s the passage…

Continue Reading…

“You’d better behave, or daddy will lose his job.”

ducks in arow

What does a pastor tell his children (or wife) concerning the reality that their conduct has a direct bearing on his livelihood? Obviously it is a conversation that will probably happen, but I propose that it is a mistake to tell your family that if they misbehave, the man of the house might end up on unemployment. Telling your children to stay in line so that you can stay at work may seem necessary, but the reality is that such comments seem indicative of the kind of thing that a pastor who is disqualified might say to his family. Let me explain.

Continue Reading…

Yesterday, I argued that humble popes don’t exist. They’re mythical because it’s categorically impossible to receive the unbiblical role of supreme pontiff, make people kiss your hand and call you “holy father,” and then be able to travel under the descriptor “humble.” The papacy is an act of self-excommunication from the Church, albeit with no small amount of flair. And therein lay the rub and temptation for many Christians.

I heartily agree with Clint’s previous post, and am not suggesting you begin a conversation with Joe Catholics with the foregoing. Yet, I believe it’s pastorally important to remind Christians that the Pope has no clothes. As Rome’s pomp and circumstance gets paraded on CNN, Christians too often begin to view their own churches and traditions with more of a jaundiced eye. In an age of plastic, self-designed spirituality, who can deny the appeal of firm traditions made of stone and mortar? And the traditions of Roman Catholicism would indeed hold beauty, if they weren’t false.

Continue Reading…