January 26, 2016

An Open Letter to Women Considering Abortion

by Jordan Standridge

Last week I attended the march for life in Washington D.C. which is a yearly peaceful protest of the Roe v. Wade decision from 1973. As we were marching down the road with the snow falling from the sky, with thousands of people and signs everywhere, my eyes caught a sign that made the whole event come to life for me.

MOTHER FROM RAPE POSTERA middle aged woman was holding a sign with incredible confidence and indescribable joy. The sign had a short but profound message:

Mother from rape I love my child!

I will never forget the face of the woman. The joy in her eyes was contagious. It was obvious that this woman had not believed the lie, the lie that she was worthless and powerless. That not only was she a victim, but had to live as a victim for the rest of her life. She was strong. She was capable. She was a woman.

As we were marching for life, I couldn’t help but think about the obvious truth that being pro-life is actually the same as being pro-woman. In fact, the opposite is true as well. Being pro-death is congruent with being anti-woman.

The day before the march, I had the opportunity to hear from so many different leaders in the pro-life movement, and although I had done a lot of thinking about pro-life issues in the last year (a lot of it because of those eye-opening planned parenthood undercover videos), I walked away from the March for Life weekend with a greater conviction about being pro-life because of the very truth that being pro-life is being pro-woman.

The world lies. It always does. Hundreds of thousands marched with me the other day, and yet very few, if anyone, reported on it. You may say that they have more important things to report on, like the snow coming. The record-breaking snow that, despite its threat, was powerless to keep all those people from marching on.

The abortion industry is evil. And on top of that, despite its claims, it is anti-woman. It lies to you, and twists the truth either to satisfy its insatiable desire to take your money, or in self-deception thinks they are helping women because they believe these lies. Three big ones to be exact.

The first lie that the abortion industry wants you to believe is that you don’t have what it takes to take care of your baby! Confused young women, who are very vulnerable, walk into a business whose livelihood depends on the money she will pay them to tear apart the baby in her womb. And instead of telling them about how strong and perfectly capable she is to do what God has designed her to do, she is told that she is weak, that she is incapable, that she is inadequate to take care of the human being she carries in her body. If that doesn’t work, she is convinced that the human growing in her body is not only not human yet, but is the equivalent of an unnecessary appendix. And yet they act like they are pro-woman. They think that they are the ones who are propelling women to new uncharted heights. What a lie!

The truth is that God has made you able to take care of your baby! God, in His eternal wisdom has given mothers incredible power. Don’t believe the lie. You can take care of the baby growing in your body. He has gifted you not only with the ability to take care of the baby, but with an incredible love for your child. In 1 Kings 3:16-28, we see a story where a woman’s baby died during the night when she laid on him. During the night woman-holding-newbornshe took the baby of another lady and laid her own in her bed. Solomon, who was the king of Israel at the time and probably the wisest man who ever lived, had to figure out who was telling the truth. So, knowing that the true mother would want the baby to live, he asked for a sword in order to divide the child in half. Of course one lady was excited about that and the other wasn’t, so the one who wanted the baby to live is the one he gave the baby to. Solomon knew that the love a mother has for her baby cannot be faked, It’s a powerful feeling that has no equal in this life. That’s why abortion is often followed by depression. In Isaiah 49:15, God, while talking about Israel, says that His love for Israel is greater than the love a mother has for her baby. He thinks of the most unlikely of scenarios, a woman forgetting her baby, and says that He will remember Israel more than a mother will remember her baby.  The fact of the matter is that deep down inside you know that you love the baby who depends on you, and ending the baby’s life is not only murder, but it is a denial of the God-given ability and love He has given you for this child.

The second lie is that you can only be successful if you imitate men. The feminist movement of today seems to really be telling women that they have to be like men in order to be successful. Instead of celebrating the obvious differences, they are screaming at you to do your best to be like a man. There is one main difference between men and women. The ability to carry a child inside you. And they tell you that it is a disease! Instead of celebrating this major difference, they convince you that in order to be successful you need to neglect this blessing. They also want to convince you that in order to be successful you need to have the ability to have sex without the consequences of pregnancy. They try to persuade you that you should be able to have as much sex as you want and as often as you want without the “danger” of having a baby in order to be successful. This mentality degrades you to the level of lustful, adulterous men who see women as something to be used rather than loved and served.

The fact of the matter is that God has given you a unique gift. This uniqueness should be celebrated and not challenged. God has gifted women with the main responsibility of raising the next generation! Think about that for a second. God gives women the opportunity to shape her children more than any man and better than any man could. Now this isn’t to say that a husband isn’t needed in the development of children. Husbands are more than necessary in keep_calm_im_a_single_mom_shirts-rf75b7e56c27d4ed7add63d4dbc64fda7_jfs4d_324the health and growth of children, but the mother has a huge impact on her children. Women who disobey God and take God’s gift of sex and abuse it outside of the context of marriage set up their children to be without a father. But even in the midst of sin, even though the boyfriend may leave, or she may become pregnant through a one night stand, God can still use the mother who courageously goes against the grain and decides to not believe the lie about abortion. The Bible says, Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. (Proverbs 22:6). Psalm 127:3-4 says, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth.” Don’t kill your “God given gift”.

The third lie is that you will only be happy if you have material things. Perhaps the main reason women give for their abortion is that they are not ready, they cannot take care of their baby. They need to finish school! They need to get a better job!   They want to wait till after they get to do some traveling. They say that there is so much more to life than staying home with a baby! While I know that the world is telling you that killing your baby is the solution to your dilemma, you know deep inside that killing your baby will only make things worse. You will never achieve happiness by making your “mistake” go away, because that “mistake” is a human being with a soul that will never die and that one day you will have to face.

The truth is that happiness is not found in material things, but rather you will only experience lasting joy when you live a life glorifying your Creator! You see, God made you to worship, and despite the fact that He’s eternal, perfect and great, we choose from birth to worship ourselves instead. And that’s one of the reasons why we are able to live in a country where abortion is not only unpunished, but encouraged. While mothers are usually willing to die for their children, we live in a society where they kill them for selfish reasons. This only screams out the fact that sin abounds in each and every one of us.  And we need to be punished for our sin; God is too perfect and just to overlook it. Our sin is too great to be made up for through good works (Eph 2:8-9), but God, who is so merciful, sent His Son Jesus to earth, to live as a man, to live a perfect life, to be killed and to rise from the dead so that you and I could live with Him forever, if we would only repent of our sin and put our faith and trust in Him. It doesn’t matter how bad of a sinner you are–if God forgave the soldier who put the nails in Jesus’ hands, he can forgive you. True joy cannot come from material things, it only comes when you realize your sin and begin living for Jesus.

Jesus is the only one who can give you lasting joy! I pray that not only will you not believe the world’s lies–about being better off without your baby, being like a man, and only satisfied with material things–but that you will wisely give your life to Christ and embrace the blessing of this child that you find in your womb.

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Jordan Standridge

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Jordan is a pastoral associate at Immanuel Bible Church in Springfield, VA, where he leads the college ministry. He is also the founder of The Foundry Bible Immersion. You can find his personal blog at surrender.us.
  • Jason

    My wife has personally dealt with people harassing her about being “stay at home”, but until now I’d never seen it summarized so succinctly as the lie that woman must imitate men to be worth anything. It really does cover the whole message coming from the feminist movement.

  • Well said Jesse. I remember years ago when participating in the “March for Life” in DC that President Reagan addressed the crowd from the White House with a very pro-life message, “I call America–a good nation, a moral people–to charitable but realistic consideration of the terrible cost of abortion on demand. To those who say this violates a woman’s right to control of her own body: Can they deny that now medical evidence confirms the unborn child is a living human being entitled to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness?”

    • Starrocks923

      This blog post was actually written by Jordan, not Jesse. I’ve run slides for both of them, and they’re both great preachers, but they aren’t the same person. 😉

      And I concur. I also miss Reagan greatly. 🙁

      • Sorry Jordan. A good read!

        • Jordan Standridge

          Ha! Not offended at all, in fact I must be getting better if you think I sound like Jesse.

  • Jane Hildebrand

    Many years ago at an ob/gyn appointment while taking my information, the nurse asked me what my level of education was. I responded that I had a four college degree. She said, “Do you work?” I said, “I am a stay at home mom.” As she wrote that down, she said under her breath, “What a waste.” I remember being too stunned to even respond.

  • Linda Rice

    I was privileged to be a stay-at-home mom. My husband, during the Reagan administration, was helping to build aircraft carriers. Aircraft carriers were a vital part of defending this whole nation of people. One day, coming home from his job to me and our three little ones, he said, “I am building aircraft carriers. You are building lives.”

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